March 31, 2014

Girls in the 20s


In your 20s, you should consider a relationship that leads to marriage. Do not waste another minute, hours, weeks, months or even years with someone who just wanna play around and doesn't honor your heart. Don't deal with heartbreak over heartbreak. It's not healthy for you and your heart.

Ladies, select wisely. Our heart is worth way more than just a diamond ring,  our heart is made of love, passion, faithfulness, twisted magical emotions, a special thing that is very fragile, yet so strong. I believe some of you who are reading this now ever once dealt with someone who doesn't even deserve your precious heart, and still, it's strong enough to team up with reality, move on and love again.

Be friends with everyone you meet, do not let the wrong guy in the past keep you from finding the right one. NEVER close your heart. Go out and select. Have fun but make lines, laugh with them but don't get too intimate, remember your purpose is to get to know them first, don't easily get attached, just yet.

Ladies, make sure you'll be in a relationship because you want it. Because you know your heart is ready, so does your mind and your soul. Do not mistake your feeling between falling in love and falling for a need, do not get into a relationship because you need someone only to fulfill your emotion, and more importantly, be sure it's not because you're lonely. Otherwise, it's not gonna work. Because marriage isn't always gonna be about trying to please each other all the time, it's about sharing happiness with each other.

My advice is that in your 20s, use your time to love yourself, understand your self well, find out whats your weakness and how to deal with it, find out your strengths and how to embrace it, do what you love and fulfil your dreams, be independent, dare to try something you always hesitate to do, challenge your self to live your life to the fullest. Be HAPPY. Because if you're not happy alone, you can never be happy with anyone else. 

I hope you live your 20s well,try to detach your self from negativity. Take care of your heart because i believe every girl deserve a marvellous happy ending at the end. In the meantime, never stop learning to be the better version of you, everyday.



March 23, 2014

12 THINGS That Show You Who You Really Are | PART I


I went through my bookmarks and found this article from thoughtcatalog that i saved last year. I decided to make my own version of 12 Things That Show You Who You Really Are ,this will be ideal for us to get to know each other and our own self better, do one too if you want! ;)

My ugly will come out when i lose my trust in people, either they lie or simply not telling the truth by playing this 'pretend to be dumb' games when i secretly know the truth. I just lose it. Esp if they're considered as my closest ones or people that i care the most. And then i'll begin to re-think everything, doubt about everything and i feel uncertain about everything that relates to them. The way i see them will completely change,it might never gonna be the same again. And I will start to slowly distance my self, they will know. 

It depends on whys. I don't get upset with people easily, i could be tolerant like that. I'll try to see and understand why some people being so difficult to deal with. I observe. But if somebody does wrong to my homies, i'll be easily effected, i will nicely confront them if its necessary. 

But if it's because of my own mistakes, i'll just rant a little to my self, and then i will find a way to feel relieved (i write, eat or simply just hit my sack and sleep) and then i'll move on.
I don't keep sadness, nor anger. That's just not my thing. 

I've been taught that if you wanna be kind, then be kind. Do not expect anyone to do the same in return. I've met millions of ignorant everywhere. I cared for people but either they took it as an advantage, misunderstood it, or simply just did not notice. I kinda get used to it now. I know it's frustrating not being appreciated but as cliche, as it sounds, when you do good to people, you got nothing to lose. It never goes to waste. 

I talk to my self... a lot. 

We usually accept something that reflects our self.
The teenage Sasa tend to fell for someone who just as broken as she was. Someone who has such a dark past, or childhood know, problematic teenage like that. Somehow, I feel the need to let them know that i understand how they feel. The need to give them hope. I feel the need to FIX them just as much as i needed to be fixed. But as time goes on, I've learned in a hard way that it's not our job to fix people.

However, after having the ability to understand my self better, i realized that someone who can handle situations is the kind of person i will prone to choose. Probably because i'm the eldest kid in the family and i get used to leading. I will choose a gentleman who has the tendency to take care of things and has responsibility. Someone who can MAN UP and call me to sit and talk if there's a problem, not someone who acts stupid and run like a 5 years old boy hiding inside the cupboard after they make a mess in the living room. Someone who has control over themselves (as in emotionally, physically, spiritually) usually wins my biggest respect. 

I have no problem admitting my fault if i have to. And will apologize. 

My apologies consist of being a perfectionist (as my friends say), too straight forward, hard to read, and stubborn. 


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